Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: We've wrapped our lives around keeping Moxie's routine so consistent.
[00:00:03] Speaker B: The loss of control pre Moxie, any little disruption into my schedule. If I couldn't work out, it would destroy my entire day.
[00:00:11] Speaker A: You really learn to appreciate time. And time has become more scarce.
[00:00:16] Speaker B: Everything is just so much more intentional with the child.
[00:00:25] Speaker A: Welcome to Hrothmy Talks for the Children stars Tonight.
[00:00:29] Speaker B: Tonight, before having during our baby Moxie, our days were a well oiled machine. Post Moxie, we've had to hit the reset button on our daily routines. Today we're pulling back the curtain on our lives now since becoming parents together. How our routine has evolved. How our goals have become refined.
Both the challenge in the change and the surprising ways it has made us stronger and more intentional.
And don't forget, if you like our content, please subscribe. It means the world to us. Now let's dive in. So I previously listened to our former episode which was season one, episode 11, filmed in August 2023. It was called our daily routine Psychoedition. That was right before we found out we were pregnant. And I was thinking about that is our before Moxie era and what our life and routines looked like then compared to now. And as I was listening to that episode, I was cringing for multiple reasons. One at the way I spoke and articulated was cringeworthy. I mean I'm not the greatest, but I like to think that there has been some improvement. You, you were good already, but so just in the way that we spoke on the podcast. But most importantly relevant to this episode is our routines. I even cringed at that. And the reason for me is that they felt and they were so robotic, our schedules were so rigid. And for those of you who haven't listened to that, I would encourage you to do so because you'll know we're not going to get into the exact details of that but you'll understand what we're talking about. And just briefly, I literally said this in the episode. I said I wake up at 3am I never press snooze. I run nine to 10 miles. I do abs for six months minutes. I get in the cold plunge. I like that that is how I explained it and that was true.
And I don't want to poo poo everything that we did for so long because I think that was a very important part of our journey like developing our businesses and becoming who we are now.
But I'm happy I would just say that we've evolved since and much of that has been since instance having Moxie.
[00:02:53] Speaker A: Yeah, I think Is, is. I think back, and as I, as I was listening, it's, it's interesting to me what you choose to do with your time when you have 100 control of it. Because we did, you know, I mean, a little disruption. Yeah. Brooke and Grace and Liv are older and very capable. So at least from that part of our lives, not the business demands, but the family demands, or someone being ex. Completely dependent on you and reliant on you and, and incapable literally of doing anything, feeding themselves, you know, all of it. Like as that change happens with a baby or a newborn. It's just interesting to me that the choices that we made when we had 100% control of our own time and we chose to sit on the couch across from each other. And, and, and when you say that.
[00:03:40] Speaker B: People think we're watching tv.
[00:03:41] Speaker A: No, no. Yeah. Sit across from the couch, on each other, laptops on lap, head down, working for hours on end. Yeah, it's. That was the thing that was so amazing. And then flip to where we are now and still being able to be productive with, you know, a little human being 100% dependent on you. It's, it's, it's all very possible, but just the idea is like, wow, I had 100% control of my schedule and really unlimited time, if you will, just not a lot of other demands outside of business. And that's what I chose to do with it. That was the takeaway for me.
[00:04:13] Speaker B: Yeah, I believe that, you know, I thrived, I think we both did, on knowing exactly how the day would unfold. I thrived on definitely, I hate this word, but I think it applies the grind, you know, it's like wake up, work out, then work all day and night. Like, I really thrived on that. And that's just how every day unfolded. But for us. But what I was really thinking about, I'm like, okay, obviously parenthood changes your routine for so many reasons. But one thing that I've really noticed is like the intention behind everything and the meaning I ran and I would work out for, I think it was more for like these surface level aesthetic reasons. We talked about in that former episode how we ate very little during the day and we had like one meal at night. And that's changed for me. Like, I now fuel for performance as a mom. I know Moxie's watching and for work and for my workouts, I just don't think I had the same meaning in a lot of my goals and aspirations and the things I did on a day to day basis. And that's something I haven't really thought about until I was planning for this episode.
So is that something you've noticed?
[00:05:36] Speaker A: I have. And the other word that came to me to mind for me back at that time was predictability. You and I both love predictability. And when you stranglehold your schedule like that, for me, I think there's. There is that comfort level around the predictability, the exact opposite of what we have now. But I think for me too, that predictability piece was. Was very comfortable. And doing the same thing over and over. There's a comfort inside of that familiarity.
And you just. And you have total control where now you. You have to be able to pivot in a moment's notice and. And not be upset or. Or be frustrated with it because you just don't have the opportunity to do that.
[00:06:13] Speaker B: Yeah. And I couldn't handle that, you know, pre Moxie, any. Any little disruption into. I couldn't work out. You know, I was. I was a bear to be around. You do not want to be around me. But it would destroy my entire day to the point where I could not focus on anything else. Thinking about how that didn't get done, it. It rarely happened. But anything that just didn't go exactly at planned was a problem, and I always knew that. But it became very glaring once we had.
[00:06:43] Speaker A: Well, I think you're, you know, if there's any part of you that is selfish that that becomes. If you then fast forward to where we are now example, and you look backward in retrospect, then I think anything that would look or feel selfish would stick out significantly.
[00:06:56] Speaker B: Yeah. So let's get into the post moxie shift. So adapting to parenthood together, you know, when moxie came into my life, you know, everything has changed suddenly. The perfectly planned schedule I had relied on for years wasn't practical, but not even possible. I had to learn to pivot. We've had to learn to pivot to find new ways to pursue goals but be present as a mom. Very present.
And it hasn't. I want to be very clear. It hasn't lessened at all my ambition or aspirations or goals, but it has refined them. And I have found a lot of. I've looked a lot more closely at where I'm spending my time, where I'm setting my goals. And everything now comes with intention and meaning. Like I'm not everything that I do. And that is a big difference. Post moxie, I want to get into that, but I think we should talk about just the initial adjustment of when from having A newborn to moxie being 8 months old. Because even the schedule when we had Moxie, our routine as a newborn to now has evolved. So let's talk about that on a more granular level, like that initial adjustment. How did it change our routines?
[00:08:22] Speaker A: Yeah, so back to that word, unpredictability. You know, when you have a. When you have a little one, you know, their eating schedules and everything that goes into that. And, And I. I imagine a lot of our audience has kids if they're running businesses or, you know, just. Just the initial piece where, you know, you are on call every couple of hours at least. Right. It's at least every couple of hours from a feeding perspective 24, 7 around. And that was something. That was a huge adjustment back to having control over your own time when you went to bed, when you. When you got up. Although, you know, we weren't huge sleepers anyway, but we still were calling the shots. And that's completely changes when you have a newborn. And I'll say, I think if anything, our communication, which to me was always as rock solid as anything I've ever experienced, actually went to an entirely different level. You know, the ability to make sure that between the two of us, we had 100% of responsibilities covered, which now involved, you know, a little tiny life that's. That's completely helpless and incapable of doing anything for herself. We just had to work on a new level of communication. I don't mean we had to work at it at all. I just mean it. We just started into that, and as good as it was, we just banded together to make sure that we were taking care of each other. But then collectively, we're also taking care of and meeting all of Moxie's needs simultaneously. And that was an interesting experience for me.
[00:09:48] Speaker B: Yeah. And for me, it wasn't about less sleep or anything like that. It was actually about the loss of control. Like, that was the biggest difference for me, hands down. I'm very type A. We're very type A. So that loss of control was super challenging in the beginning. I had to embrace and lean into the fact that I was no longer in the driver's seat. And I had never experienced that in my life or not for a very long time.
As far as our communication, one thing I think was really important to point out is in the beginning, in the very beginning, even before we had Moxie, we talked about making sure neither of our businesses was secondary. So as a mom, a lot of times, this is just how it is. Moms, their. Their career gets put on hold, they take care of the child. And I said to you, I, I remember saying this to you, like, I want to make sure Tegler Construction Supply is not second to Arnold Packaging, that you don't go off and get, you know, everything you do for Arnold Packaging. And then I'm watching Moxie, and then once you come back and you get your stuff done, it's my turn.
[00:10:55] Speaker A: No, I remember. I remember vividly. I think it was March, you know, Mox was due in, in May. And I could tell that you were definitely going through some things. I mean, I noticed it was very noticeable that something had changed or there was something that was on your mind. And I don't recall exactly how we got to it where you. I. I'm worried. And you said exactly what you just said to me, which, which was quite foreign because at no point had it ever occurred to me that that that would happen. It was never my intention that you would be, you know, doing half Tegla and half Moxie and I would be doing 100% of Arnold packaging. That never occurred to me. But it was something that was very top of mind for you. And we talked about it and, and I, and I found it interesting. Like, it was not a shift or was, oh, I need to reset. I was never heading in that direction, but I thought it was interesting that you were concerned about it. Right. It was never, it was never a thought in my mind that, that, you know, Tegla would take a back seat or that. To me, it was always going to be each of us doing 100 of half and then doing all of our businesses and also continuing to help each other with our businesses like we always have.
[00:12:03] Speaker B: Yeah. So when she was first born, not only was I figuring out my new identity as a mother, but also our new routine. And it's a little coincidental that this is about routines, because what we found is we're gonna have less of a routine than we've ever had. Still need to get the same amount of things done in the day, but we have to be okay with fitting it in when you can. When Moxie was first born, I mean, it would be like if I had to run at 4:00 or 5:00, that's what happened. And it's one of the best things that happened to me because I was able to let go, go of that absolute grip, hold on control, and she becomes the number one priority. So anything else is secondary. It's the backseat. Her needs are first. And it's the most selfless. I'VE ever felt in my entire life. And that felt very freeing to me. Like, it felt amazing that I, I just was, I no longer mattered. Like, I don't. Like, she is number one. And it's just, it just in a weird way felt like it took so much pressure off of me. It's very hard to explain. Does that even make sense, saying it out loud?
[00:13:09] Speaker A: Yeah. I don't want to get off the routines topic, but I think we need to dig into that on a different day, you know, whatever. If there was a, you know, a cathartic feel about being able to unload whatever those things are, I'd like to dig into that on a different episode. But no, it makes all the sense in the world. I think I've never used. You know, we talk about our, you know, one of my, my sayings on here is, equals R times C, right? Is it doesn't matter as long as you're committed, it doesn't matter how right you are. That I think describes our exact approach to moxie, right? The number of high speed pivots that we make together, things we never saw coming, or, you know, we'll even try to get back into our old school planning method and that becomes completely knocked off base in about two seconds. You're like, well, that was dumb. That was never going to happen. And I think one of the things I had to get my head back around, which is where I made the comment about selfish, where you look back and go, well, yeah, of course you could have done that then, but you, you don't have the option to do that now is, you know, where I would be.
I was sitting down to. Let's just say I was going to revert back to my old schedule and I was going to plop ass down on the couch and I was going to be in front of the laptop and you know, I was going to do it for four or five hours. Well, no sooner did that happen, there was a cry from the nursery, there was a something and that was not happening. And there's an example where old Mick had this mindset that he was just going to do what he wanted to do for a period of time. But there was a two week old, four week old, six week old that had other ideas in mind and between the two of us, we were going to have to get it and, and those days of just calling the shots on your schedule finally. But it took me a while to get my head around that and I think I probably bratted out a couple of times or, or was Frustrated, but not too long before it's. Well, yep, that's. It doesn't work that way anymore. So get your head around it and then figure out how to restructure your schedule so you can as productive and then also start relying on other people too. And that's. That was a great byproduct for me is not doing 100% of things around the. In the business world myself, letting my team do what they need to do.
[00:15:13] Speaker B: Yeah, I wrote this down. This was just a thought. I said it says, motherhood hasn't lessened my ambition. It's refined it. It's taught me that progress isn't about perfection, but about showing up, adapting and staying committed, even if it looks different than before. In many ways, I feel stronger because I'm building my goal around life's beautiful unpredictability. And that was something that I think really helped me when I ran the ultra marathon. Like, I cobbled together so many ways to train. A lot of them were walking Moxie in the stroller because I couldn't. I couldn't run with her because she didn't have the neck control. So I was just like cobbling all these pieces together of training blocks.
[00:15:52] Speaker A: Sure.
[00:15:53] Speaker B: And I think in the end it did me so much good because I just was resilient and resourceful. But I was so committed, like even more committed than if I could wake up on my own 3am and get the exact training done. So it was so scrappy. And I think that really translated into the race. But here's. I wanna get into the actual granular. Big changes that have happened from a routine perspective. One of the things we said. I woke up 3am you woke up at 5am I have not. You had said 5 in the episode.
[00:16:23] Speaker A: Oh, did I?
[00:16:24] Speaker B: You were waking up at 5. Okay.
Now I have not set. This is crazy. Haven't set an alarm since we've had Moxie because she's gonna wake up and feed in the middle of the night or really early in the morning. So typically if she wakes up around two or three or four, I just get up usually at that time because I have a really hard time going back to sleep. Or if it's like at midnight, I know she's gonna wake up a second time. So she's my alarm clock. And it's typically super early. Big change. Second. Big change. We now have a second person, an au pair living with us who works seven to five during the day. So having almost a. Not almost having another family member enter, trust them to take care of our child and also have to work with them. Like during the day, she's watching our child. And then there's a handoff.
Wildly different than just the two of you in a house living together, right?
[00:17:24] Speaker A: No, there has, there's this, you know, there's this, this, this thing that we have sometimes spoken, sometimes unspoken, where one of us is there until 7 to give the handoff.
[00:17:33] Speaker B: 7Am right?
[00:17:34] Speaker A: 7Am and then one of us is back by 5pm to take the handoff back from Gabby, our au pair. And that's been, that's been interesting. But I think that for me, it's just about how seamlessly we have fell into that, you know, where we still get our workout, get an appropriate amount. We're sleeping less, but I mean, and I don't know if it's more than we, if we're sleeping less than we did before mox, but that's something that has been sacrificed. One of our words we use on here, that's something that's been sacrificed as part of the process is sleep. You know, like you said, if MOX is up at 2 and we happen to have gotten a few hours of sleep, you just get up. You're not going back to sleep after you're up for an hour and taking care of a baby.
[00:18:15] Speaker B: Right.
[00:18:15] Speaker A: I mean, talk about ultra, ultra attention and not being able to slough off pretty well awake after you've done that for a period of time.
[00:18:23] Speaker B: Yeah. A couple other very specific examples that have changed. I now work from home a lot more. So pre Moxie, I was coming into the office pretty much every day. My team has always been hybrid. I was coming in almost every day. Now I work hybrid just like in the same days my team does. I like being, being. Even if Gabby, our au pair, has responsibility for Moxie during those hours, I like to be there. I like the touch points for Moxie. I like to be able to see what she's doing or just check in or just hold her for a minute. Like, that's really important to me, those little moments.
So that's a difference. And then another difference is are the, the way we. I would say, like the way we eat because we. One of the things we talked about was like our how we eat and nutrition and so much of what we do. We want to be an example for Moxie now. So you and I, we were eating out, we were going out. Now we're very intentional about cooking at home. Like most meals we cook at home. I know she's watching. I'm fueling so much more. Like my performance has become so much more important than anything else, than an aesthetic, anything surface level. And that I think that translates across the board. Like now my goals with running are so much more intentional. I think we can move on to like that deeper purpose and meaning in, in our goals and aspirations and ambitions. There's so much more why and, and finding a way to, to, to chase them in a more flexible way. Like, it made me realize I want goals that mean something, that are not just for me, but also for her. I don't want to chase just for the sake of achievement. I want it to model resilience and purpose and strength. And I always go back to running because it's a personal passion of mine. But I was just like running intervals. I feel like in the past to, to feel to, to look good. And now it's like I have running races and I want her to see and I'm like, I'm fueling to perform really well and have her be a part of it and you be a part of it. It just, it's just so much more meaningful. And anything I do or spend the time doing, I want it to have that purpose now. When running my business, like, I'm, I'm always thinking, not that I wasn't before, but the people and their families. Like, I'm so much quicker to think about this employee, but also like all the kids they have and their quality of life because I know what it's like now. Like yesterday we had a snow day. I'm thinking to myself, like, I want them to go out at 3 o'clock and go sledding with their kids. That would have never crossed my mind. Everything is just so much more, I think, intentional with a child.
[00:21:09] Speaker A: Right? I mean, your lens is much more.
[00:21:11] Speaker B: Maybe that's the way to say, hell.
[00:21:12] Speaker A: I had to, you know, I, I had to let you know which days were holidays not that long ago. Right. I mean, you, you didn't even know which days were holidays. I was like, wait a minute, we're actually not working that day. Oh, we're not. Well, you and I would, but the rest of the world's going to be off. So that's definitely been a huge change. And, and yeah, that. Listen, I think that, that empathy in those moments, once you, once you have that experience and it's the first thing you think of, like, oh, well, what happens, you know, when they canceled school on Sunday night. Great example. Now all of a sudden it's okay, well, what are my teammates going to do? With and about their children. You know, I mean, what, what's going to happen if, if we open and, and they don't have childcare? How are we going to accommodate that? In the past that would even. We don't, we don't get a ton of snow anymore. But that wouldn't have been something that crossed your mind. It would have been, what's a workday? What's the problem? Let's get to it. And I think your eyes are much more wide open from an empathy perspective than they have ever been before.
[00:22:10] Speaker B: Yeah, I also wrote this down. I said if you're chasing goals and this is for the audience that don't feel meaningful, it's okay to step back and reassess. Life has a way of giving us the chance to realign whether it's through parenthood, a big change, or a simple moment of clarity. For me, that shift came through Moxie and it's the most rewarding change I've ever made. And that's really, it's just a reassessment, almost a reset on life. Like I've told you this yesterday when she saw snow for the first time, I like experiencing life through her eyes, seeing everything for the first time. It's so. I don't mean to get woo woo. But it's like really magical because we sit there every day of this, like amazing things going on and we don't care to notice. Well, when you have a child, all of a sudden you do notice that, like those little moments. And I just feel like I, it's, it's been a really needed reset that I didn't know I even needed.
[00:23:04] Speaker A: Yeah. How would you? Yeah, yeah. How would you? Yeah. I mean, I don't think you can ever simulate or have any idea what parenthood is going to be like until you're there. I mean, maybe if you get a glimpse, let's say you're, you're super close with your sibling and you watch them go through the process, you might get a little bit of a glimpse, but nothing like when you're actually in, you're responsible yourself, completely different.
[00:23:25] Speaker B: And the other thing that's really changed as far as what I do, daily life routines is just my idea of what productivity actually is. Like before it was working and a lot of times it was working to work. I'm not sure there was much intention other than I felt like that's what I was supposed to do. Now a lot of that is just as we call it, unstructured time. With Moxie, it could literally be Doing nothing but just hanging out with you and I, with you and her and getting to see her smile or do something new because she's doing new things every day. That is so if productive is the right word, fulfilling, fulfilling, rewarding, productive. I don't, I don't need to be sitting on my laptop, working away to feel like I'm being fulfilled in my life.
It's just like all those unstructured, free flowing, spontaneous moments with her.
What are your thoughts on that?
[00:24:19] Speaker A: Yeah, I know. I, I agree. I think the biggest takeaway for me is just having to. Because we still have the same amount of responsibilities, right? We still have the same number of things to get done and just being able to fit it all in. And, and you know, when, when there becomes, I think you really learn to appreciate something and manage it in a more cherished way. When it becomes more scarce. And what I'm speaking of specifically is time. And time has become more scarce. So yes, we still have the same amount and same number of demands from a work perspective, but, and, and then have to fit in and, and manage the care of, of a newborn and it still all gets done. So you just become so much more efficient when you don't have the ability to, to take for granted the amount of free time. I even say disposable time. You know, was it necessarily to sit in front of the laptop for five hours when the same amount of work's getting done, sitting in front of, for two or one and a half or whatever it is now? No, it was never necessary.
[00:25:20] Speaker B: And I think the real, and we've, we've gotten into really how our, our daily lives have changed even more than routine. But I think really the key here is prioritization. So what are your priorities? And if, if you become a parent and you don't, you don't get very clear on what your priorities are, there are things that are going to fall by the wayside. You're not going to be as productive maybe in your career. Like it can't all get done if you don't cut away the fat. And for us, we've been very, very clear on prioritizing and making sure and then getting rid of everything else. We don't go out anymore, unfortunately. We rarely hang out with friends. I mean, we talk to our closest friends, but if it's acquaintances and we're not seeing them, we're not going to networking events at all. So it's family.
It's family. The girls moxie. I mean really when we go out, if we Go out, it is with family.
[00:26:24] Speaker A: Sure.
[00:26:25] Speaker B: And then, you know, we have our businesses, then we have love and business, the podcast, and then we have our like running and like our health and fitness as a family value. That's it.
[00:26:38] Speaker A: Yeah. But I think one of the things we're having our time with discussing routines is because we don't have one, we have basically adopted Moxie's routine and then we fit our lives in and around it because it's not negotiable. When she needs something, she needs it. So it's gonna be hard for us, I think, any, anytime soon to really get a routine. She is going to be the routine. Right. And we're going to make sure that she stays in her routine and then we're going to fit our lives in or in and around it and always be ready for really high speed pivots. I mean, just the lack of predictability about when she wakes up, you know, it's 12, it's one, it's two. There's just no predictability. And I think we've gotten our head around the idea that there won't be any. But also still learning too. You know, if she awakens at 1am Then that means we're going to be doing something again before the 7:00 handoff. Right. There's a great example where if she were to sleep until three, we're probably going to be okay until the seven o'clock handoff. And it might have me cutting out a little bit earlier or whatever that would look like. So I think the thing is, is we really was not a lot of routine for us to talk about because we've wrapped our lives around keeping Moxie's routine so consistent.
[00:27:49] Speaker B: And I'm sure a lot of people, I mean, this is something I questioned myself in the beginning is how do you prioritize if we're talking about, okay, life's unpredictable and you have to be very clear on your priorities to get it all done and be as productive as you were before in the things that you want to be productive. And the only way you can do that is becoming very clear on what means the most to you. And I also think those things have to mean something. They have to be very meaningful or, or they won't get done because you're tired. And all of these. There's so much disruption and chaos. Chaos is probably a good word.
[00:28:31] Speaker A: Yeah, it's chaos.
[00:28:32] Speaker B: So it's, it's sitting down and getting so clear and we, I feel like we do this all the time. We're like we have these buckets. At least I do. I write it down or, you know, I do have like this. These are the buckets that matter. And if it's not going into one of these, it's. It's. It's off the radar. It's not. No attention is going towards it.
[00:28:52] Speaker A: Can you. Can you think of an example of something that would have been on the radar. Radar prior that you just don't recall having done any time recently since MOX was born?
[00:29:01] Speaker B: A lot of it's related to business. But I did. We both did, actually. A lot of speaking, a ton of speaking engagements, a lot of panels, a lot of networking, a lot of dinners out with vendors or suppliers.
Like, all of that has just. I can't remember the last time.
[00:29:18] Speaker A: Yeah. I would say that. Yeah. Those evening hours. Right. From. From five until whatever. Whatever time is generally home together. And with mox. So that's a big difference.
[00:29:27] Speaker B: I mean, also. Yeah. And there. And they're part of those things. Like we've talked about it before, but like drinking alcohol, that's been cut out completely. I mean. Yeah. And because there can be no lost time. Like time is so much more precious and you have to treat it like that. So between prioritizing and embracing every moment you have that is necessary. So key.
[00:29:55] Speaker A: Yeah. The time. The time to slug the drinks and then the time to recover from slugging the drinks. There's not even an option anymore.
[00:30:01] Speaker B: Well, you lose that time. Plus potentially a whole nother day.
[00:30:04] Speaker A: Right.
[00:30:04] Speaker B: Like, you just.
You pick what's most important to you. What do you value?
[00:30:09] Speaker A: Yeah, absolutely. And when. And again you just. And we. I think certainly I made that mistake early. Right. Not maybe not evolving as quickly as I needed to. And that's actually paying the price.
[00:30:22] Speaker B: I've never thought about that.
[00:30:23] Speaker A: But yeah, we're a little slow to evolve. I generally have to learn things the hard way at least three times.
[00:30:29] Speaker B: So overall, when we're looking back and you're listening to August 2023, when we filmed our initial video of our routines to now, I feel like these changes, it's an evolution. It's a new chapter. It's a refine. I think refinement is the right word.
How do you feel about.
How do you feel about where we've come, where we are, what we might need to improve on and how it compares to that reflection in the rear view window of where we were?
What kind of emotion does that evoke for you?
[00:31:11] Speaker A: My favorite thing about what has transpired in the last eight months Right. But even before, because you know you were, you're pregnant for nine months prior to that. So it's really been a seven.
[00:31:20] Speaker B: I was, I believe.
[00:31:21] Speaker A: I think so. Well, nobody knew. At least not here. Remember you smuggled a child around for nine months.
[00:31:27] Speaker B: You know what's really funny? I was wearing this sweater, one of the first photos I ever took when I was pregnant. And I wasn't showing for a really long time, but even I thought I was like showing. And I look at, I thought everybody knew like I was. So I had nothing. It was too early.
[00:31:43] Speaker A: You went up to the due date and smuggled my wearing this until, until, you know, eight months and whatever days. I mean it was, it was right up to the end. I mean, so obviously the moxie part, but I, I think one of my favorite things is how close you and I have become and, and just playing off of one another the way we always have. But, but even in this silent way, I mean we just understand each other's cues and every once in a while, you know, I'll be zigging and you'll be zagging and there's going to be some friction. But by and large our friction is almost non existent and everything gets done at the same speed and the same pace. And the, the, the quiet things that we just took over go back to our mask business. For example, we used to laugh about how you just took on the mask.
[00:32:27] Speaker B: Business where we created masks.
[00:32:29] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:32:30] Speaker B: In Covid.
[00:32:30] Speaker A: Yes. Where, where I flew back to California and got stuck on the couch because Hogan had. Had put a, put a more. Put a 14 day sit down on anybody out of the state because nobody knew what the hell was going on. And we decided to design and manufacture and distribute masks because those were becoming mandatory all over the place. And the same way in that moment that you did the, the social media, the sales piece and sales of that and I handled generally the operation side of it. We've fallen right into that same mode with mocks and getting everything covered where it's making sure the house is covered and, and business and, and I help out more with your business. You help out more with my business. I just feel like the, you know, the assists grab a basketball term, the assists are at the highest level of all time. And you know, there's a lot of thunder dunks as part of that, that we get to celebrate together, which is cool.
[00:33:25] Speaker B: What's a thunder duck?
[00:33:26] Speaker A: Well, and you know, if you, if I throw you the alley oop at the, the rim and you hammer that thing home Then that is a thunder dunk. Daryl Dawkins. Right. Tommy, you remember Daryl Dawkins. Chocolate Thunder, he called himself. But that's been one of my favorite parts is just watching our execution. I mean, that's really technical term, but watching our relationship get so good and us get so much closer as we have this. This little life that we're responsible for.
[00:33:51] Speaker B: Yeah, I feel the same way. And in summary, for me, I just. I just feel so much I. This. I'm not sure if this is going to make sense, but I just feel so much more like me, like who I was supposed to be. I feel so much more fulfilled. I feel so much more purpose and meaning and intention in my life. Not that I didn't have that before, but I feel like I have so much more of it now. And I'm so grateful for that. And I never knew one little human being could bring me that. But my perspective on life has changed so much. I feel way more empathetic, way more grateful and way less selfish. Yeah.
[00:34:33] Speaker A: You know, and the other piece and one A to this, which I absolutely want to make sure that we hit on because you and I are just talking about our little trio. Right? I mean, that's. That has been, you know, Mox's arrival and our little trio has been the thing that has been most disruptive to our schedules. Right. Changing our schedules. But. But my next one, a favorite thing has been the integration of our families into the experience as well. Brooke and Grace and Olivia and your parents and sister. I mean, nothing if you haven't had a child yet. You want to see people that you. With way more frequency than you used to see them have a child. Right. You'll find your parents over all the time. You'll find people making up reasons to stop by. Like, that's funny. Have you ever been to our house? But, you know, have a child and that all changes. So right next to that one A is integrating all of that together and getting some help from them and doing it as one big cool unit wrapped around a little life.
[00:35:32] Speaker B: Yeah, we are with our family, so much more. And that's what I'm talking about. Like, I just feel so much more fulfilled as a human. And that is represented in our values and what we believe. And then our routines reflect that.
[00:35:50] Speaker A: Yeah, it's been fun. And I know this is only eight months. I mean, that the changes that are going to continue to come and. And I, you know, one would like to think it gets a little bit easier, right. As. As your child becomes a little less dependent along the way, but who knows? We'll. We'll be here to document that and detail that all the way through. Yeah.
[00:36:11] Speaker B: My last comment is I what I hope for the future for us and if when we're doing this again in a year is that when Moxie gets older, we will be able to have more of a structured routine because she'll be so much more predictable. So I hope we can combine a little bit more of a structure, but with everything we've gained out of, you know, this new perspective, this gratefulness, this fulfillment with a little bit more structure all combined into one.
[00:36:41] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:36:41] Speaker B: I'm hoping that's what we can achieve.
[00:36:43] Speaker A: Yeah. I would. I would welcome just a little bit of the certainty and predictability back to it, but I would never want to go back to where we came from in August of 2023. That's. That's not what right looks like.
[00:36:55] Speaker B: Cheers.
[00:36:55] Speaker A: Cheers.
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